When you avoid or sidestep real conflict with someone you love, the other person feels as if you’re devaluing them. Avoidance eventually undermines the integrity of the whole relationship and keeps it on a superficial level.
If you want to go to a new depth in relationships, it’s essential to be wiling to face difficult issues and stay engaged until you work through them. There’s power in the process. Addressing conflict in healthy ways creates a shared experience that bonds the two parties.
Conflict is a sign that a relationship is real. Relationships without conflict exist only on a superficial level.