Parenting 101

We cannot control our children perfectly anymore than we can control our own circumstances perfectly.  Which is to say, not much at all.  But we can have a huge influence in the lives of our children.  We should look at parenting as have three “dials” like on a radio.  We have the “peer dial,” the “parent dial,” and the “God dial.”  And we need to constantly check how we are “dialed” into those areas of our children’s lives.  Depending on their ages and responsibility we can decide how much influence to exert into our children’s relationship with peers, ourselves, and God.

Parents must take the lead in introducing God into the lives of their children.  Church should be an expectation.  PERIOD!  I don’t know why parents let children of any age before 18 sleep in and miss church.  We don’t let them do that for school.  But we make sports a higher priority than church too.  But not for school.  We teach our kids values by how we prioritize our time and in particular, how we prioritize church compared to other good activities.  Church just becomes another good place, but not the body of Christ to which they need to be connected regularly.

Parents must exert reasonable levels of influence on their children as they relate to their peers.  If you know your child has a friend that is a corrupting influence, why let them continue that?  However, if your child is strong in their identity and chooses to relate to “problem children” and can influence them, then more power to them.  But every child is different.  The question we have to ask is whether each of our children is more like a thermometer or thermostat.  A thermometer changes to its surroundings.  A thermostat changes its environment.

Parents must be involved in their children’s lives if they want to have any credibility in influencing their relationships to peers and God.  We cannot be absent and then expect to be listened to.

What things have you learned about parenting?  Would you agree with what I’ve stated?

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3 thoughts on “Parenting 101

  1. When we did the parenting class with his DVDs… that was probably the best thing I have ever heard as a parent. Thanks for posting this… I would love for him to meet Carley!

  2. Pingback: Top 10 Posts from 2009 (as determined by me) « Small Town Pastor

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