Before we can forgive, we have to answer Jesus’ call to discipleship. The question isn’t “Could I forgive someone who _________?” The question is can I answer the call to discipleship?
We forgive not because we want to, or because it improves our lives, or because we’re sick of living with the after effects of not doing so; we forgive because that’s what disciples do. Disciples obey Jesus, and Jesus teaches us to forgive other people.
So as difficult as it might be, we have to learn to pray, “Jesus, I hate this person. Teach me how to love and forgive him.”