There are many reasons a marriage can slowly die. One of the fatal flaws for most husbands is that we fail to continue dating and pursuing our wives after we marry them. Going to fancy restaurants, taking romantic walks, or driving aimlessly for hours in the car just doesn’t seem as important after we have won the prize. If we were to look at why we don’t continue dating our wives, most of us would have similar excuses:
- “I am worn out.” You work hard all week and when the weekend arrives you just want to watch the ballgame or go watch your kids play in their multiple games!
- “I have too much to do.” With little free time between work, children, and home responsibilities you never seem to have time to do what you want or need to do.
- “I really don’t want to argue.” You don’t want to discuss money, hear about your kids’ problems, make a list about what needs fixing around the house, or talk about what the “Joneses” just purchased.
- “We’re broke.” A night out can be somewhat expensive and there never seems to be enough money.
- “I just don’t want to go.” She knows you love her; you don’t have to prove it again, right?
A date night once every week or two can be a marriage saver. Here are some ground rules that will help your “date” be one to remember and not just another “couples’ staff meeting.”
- We will not talk about the kids, in-laws, bills, or next week’s to-do list.
- We will not talk about all the things we don’t have time to do or how we can’t afford this night out.
- We will not intentionally bring up subjects that lead to arguments.
- We will talk about ways God is working in our lives and marriage.
- We will talk about, and plan, the things we may do together in the future.
- We will talk about ways we can be a blessing to the neighborhood, the kids’ schools, or our church.