God created my identity. It is found “in Him” as His beloved child. I didn’t earn it and I don’t keep it through good behavior. The identity we were created to have in God must take the lead in changing our behavior and not the reverse. In this world we determine identity on the basis of behavior, which leads to frustration and legalism.
The question, “Who should I be?” must come before “What should I do?” The order is crucial. “Who we are?” must precede “how we should love?”