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		<title>What Kind of &#8220;Faith&#8221; Do You Have? (part one)</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Dec 2009 15:01:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[How would you define faith, particularly as it relates to God or Jesus? 
For some time we have equated &#8220;faith&#8221; with &#8220;belief.&#8221;  I have faith in God=I believe God.  This preoccupation with &#8220;believing&#8221; and &#8220;beliefs&#8221; has a crucially important effect: it turns Christian faith into simply a &#8220;head matter.&#8221;  Faith becomes primarily a matter of the [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=smalltownpastor.wordpress.com&blog=3563455&post=2929&subd=smalltownpastor&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>How would you define faith, particularly as it relates to God or Jesus? </p>
<p>For some time we have equated &#8220;faith&#8221; with &#8220;belief.&#8221;  I have faith in God=I believe God.  This preoccupation with &#8220;believing&#8221; and &#8220;beliefs&#8221; has a crucially important effect: it turns Christian faith into simply a &#8220;head matter.&#8221;  Faith becomes primarily a matter of <em>the beliefs in your head</em>&#8211;of whether you believe the right set of claims to be true.  This virtual identification of faith with believing a set of statements is thus a serious impoverishment of the word &#8220;faith.&#8221;</p>
<p>Faith is at the heart of Christianity.  All but 2 of the 27 New Testament books uses the noun &#8220;faith&#8221; or the verb &#8220;believe.&#8221;  Moreover, the New Testament gives it crucial significance.  Jesus said things like, &#8220;Your faith has made you well.&#8221;  From Paul we are &#8220;justified (made right by God) by grace through faith.&#8221;  The author of Hebrews extols its heroes has having lived by faith.  And of course, the most widely known verse in the Bible, &#8220;For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son, that whoever <em>believes in him</em> should not perish, but have everlasting life.&#8221;</p>
<p>In this history of Christianity, it has 4 primary meanings.  Let me explain each using the 4 words from Latin that we could translate &#8220;Faith.&#8221;  I owe the origins of these thoughts to Marcus Borg&#8217;s &#8220;The Heart of Christianity&#8221; chapter 2.</p>
<p> <strong>1. Faith as Assensus</strong>: The closest English equivalent is &#8220;assent.&#8221;  This is faith as belief, as giving one&#8217;s mental assent to a proposition, as believing that a claim or statement is true.  This notion that Christian faith is primarily about <em>assensus</em>, about belief, about a &#8220;head&#8221; matter is recent. </p>
<p>2 developments account for its dominance in modern Western Christianity. </p>
<p>The first is the Protestant Reformation, which not only emphasized faith, but also produced a myriad of new denominations, each defined by its distinctive &#8220;beliefs&#8221; or doctrines.  So faith began to mean &#8220;believing the right things.&#8221; </p>
<p>The second development was the Enlightenment and the birth of modern science.  The Enlightenment identified truth with factuality.  Truth is that which can be verified.  The Enlightenment called into question the factuality of parts of traditional Christian teaching.  So &#8220;belief became about believing a notion contrary to evidence, contrary to what reasonable people know.&#8221;  For instance, when do you use the word &#8220;believe?&#8221;  Probably when you&#8217;re not sure, or when you don&#8217;t know.  There are some things you know, and other things you&#8217;re not sure about, and so you can only believe.  Believing and knowing are contrasted.  Faith is what you turn to when knowledge runs out.  Even more strongly, faith is what you need when beliefs and knowledge conflict.</p>
<p>The opposite of faith as <em>assensus</em> is doubt, or even stronger, disbelief.  Faith as belief is relatively impotent, relatively powerless.  You can believe all the right things and still be in bondage.  You can still believe all the right things and still be miserable.  You can believe all the right things and still be relatively unchanged. </p>
<p>Tomorrow I&#8217;ll talk about other ways to understand &#8220;faith&#8221; that bring power and change to the Christian&#8217;s life.</p>
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		<title>Worship God, Not Worship Worship</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Dec 2009 10:15:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I am concerned whenever I hear someone say, &#8220;You ought to experience the worship at our church&#8211;it&#8217;s awesome!&#8221;  I&#8217;m afraid when we say that we reveal that OUR worship is the point.  It&#8217;s not about experiencing WORSHIP, it&#8217;s about experiencing GOD.  If we do that, our worship will be the natural result.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>I am concerned whenever I hear someone say, &#8220;You ought to experience the worship at our church&#8211;it&#8217;s awesome!&#8221;  I&#8217;m afraid when we say that we reveal that OUR worship is the point.  It&#8217;s not about experiencing WORSHIP, it&#8217;s about experiencing GOD.  If we do that, our worship will be the natural result.</p>
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		<title>How To Scar Your Kids For Life: Make them watch Tiny Tim sing about global warming</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Nov 2009 15:18:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<title>Sunday Setlist #29</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 29 Nov 2009 20:07:56 +0000</pubDate>
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				<category><![CDATA[First Christian Church]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s today&#8217;s set list of music at the Awakening Service at FCC.  This will be linked to Fred McKinnon&#8217;s blog where other worship bloggers post their setlists.  
Here&#8217;s what we did:
Let Everything That Has Breathe (oldie but a goodie)
As Long as I have You
Giving it all to You
Message: Is God Bigger than My Sin?
Communion
Hallelujah Jesus
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>Here&#8217;s today&#8217;s set list of music at the Awakening Service at <a href="http://www.fccversailles.com/">FCC</a>.  This will be linked to <a href="http://www.fredmckinnon.com/myblog/2009/11/29/sunday-setlists-71/">Fred McKinnon&#8217;s blog </a>where other worship bloggers post their setlists.  </p>
<p>Here&#8217;s what we did:</p>
<p>Let Everything That Has Breathe (oldie but a goodie)</p>
<p>As Long as I have You</p>
<p>Giving it all to You</p>
<p>Message: Is God Bigger than My Sin?</p>
<p>Communion</p>
<p>Hallelujah Jesus</p>
<p>Amazing Grace (My chains are gone)</p>
<p>Overflow (closing)</p>
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		<title>Watch What You Say</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 29 Nov 2009 10:35:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[This is a passage that I don&#8217;t like.  What do you think of it?  Here it is (Matthew 12:36-37): Jesus said, &#8220;But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken.  For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=smalltownpastor.wordpress.com&blog=3563455&post=35&subd=smalltownpastor&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>This is a passage that I don&#8217;t like.  What do you think of it?  Here it is (Matthew 12:36-37): Jesus said, &#8220;But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken.  For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.&#8221;</p>
<p>How often have I spoken carelessly, hurting someone?  More often than I probably realize.  It&#8217;s like a tube of toothpaste.  Once it&#8217;s out it won&#8217;t go back in.  So watch what you say.</p>
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		<title>Primal Leadership</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 28 Nov 2009 10:27:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[During my sabbatical I read the book &#8220;Primal Leadership&#8221; by Daniel Goleman, who notes that, more often than other factors including organizational, environmental, and intellectual capacity, the leader&#8217;s emotional intelligence is key to his or her capacity to lead.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>During my sabbatical I read the book &#8220;<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Primal-Leadership-Realizing-Emotional-Intelligence/dp/157851486X">Primal Leadership</a>&#8221; by <a href="http://www.danielgoleman.info/blog/">Daniel Goleman</a>, who notes that, more often than other factors including organizational, environmental, and intellectual capacity, the leader&#8217;s emotional intelligence is key to his or her capacity to lead.</p>
<p>What is emotional intelligence?  In 1990, Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer defined it: &#8220;Emotional intelligence involves the ability to perceive accurately, appraise, and express emotion; the ability to access and/or generate feelings when they facilitate thought; the ability to understand emotion and emotional knowledge; and the ability to regulate emotions to promote emotional and intellectual growth.&#8221;</p>
<p>Are pastors emotionally intelligent?  Far too many pastors graduate from seminary woefully unprepared for the emotional rigors of congregational ministry.  Ministers are expected to be on call 24 hours/day, be nice to everyone, and have salaries publicly reviewed by the congregation.  Add to this the other stressors frequently experienced by pastors, such as members who hold the minister responsible for their spiritual growth, unrealistic pastoral care expectations, conflict causing congregational polarization, competing expectations between generations, and constant meetings.  Is it any wonder so few pastors survive, much less thrive, in ministry?</p>
<p>Can you (or I!) develop pastoral intelligence?  According to Goleman, the key components of EI include: personal competencies (self-awareness and self-management) and social competencies (social awareness and relationship management).  Most ministers don&#8217;t fully understand the impact their emotions have upon them and, by association, the congregation they serve.  This includes me!</p>
<p>What can be done?  1) Start by reading the book; 2) Real-time, contextual feedback is valuable in helping ministers deal with their emotions; 3) ministers must accept their roles as change agents and must be trained as change catalysts; 4) Ministers must learn empathy.  This last one includes the ability to listen without interrupting, hear, and understand what is really being said without defending or responding (nonjudgmental presence).  The inability to empathize causes the minister to be perceived as aloof, disinterested, or overly objective as a leader.</p>
<p>How am I doing?  I&#8217;m not sure I want to know&#8230;plus I wouldn&#8217;t listen or appear to care anyway.  Just kidding!  I think I have improved but because I am more task-oriented than people-oriented I&#8217;m aware that I have to work on listening without jumping to conclusions or even responding.</p>
<p>Some quotes from the book:</p>
<blockquote><p>Group members generally see the leader&#8217;s emotional reaction as the most valid response, and so model their own on it&#8211;particularly in an ambiguous situation, where various members react differently.  &#8230;upbeat moods boost cooperation, fairness, and business performance.  Laughter, in particular&#8230;.  Of all emotional signals, smiles are the most contagious; they have an almost irresistible power to make others smile in return.  &#8230;The greater a leader&#8217;s skill at transmitting emotions, the more forcefully the emotions will spread.  &#8230;subtle expressions of emotion can have great impact.  &#8230;Both good and bad moods tend to perpetuate themselves, in part because they skew perceptions and memories: When people feel upbeat, they see the positive light in a situation and recall the good things about it, and when they feel bad, they focus on the downside.  &#8230;Anger or fear, then, may get a leader though the crisis of the day, but they are short-lived motivators.  &#8230;The artful use of humor typifies effective leadership.  The most effective leaders, then, use humor more freely, even when things are tense, sending positive messages that shift the underlying emotional tone of the interaction.</p></blockquote>
<p>What can we learn from this?</p>
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		<title>Why Should Followers Respect a Leader?</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 27 Nov 2009 10:08:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Respect is a matter of leadership&#8211;not position, title or gender.  Gaining respect of others always begins with having respect for yourself.  Leaders whom the people respect don&#8217;t grab all the credit of a victory for themselves.  Leaders cannot help people experience success unless they have themselves been successful.  Weak leaders believe that their position or [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=smalltownpastor.wordpress.com&blog=3563455&post=927&subd=smalltownpastor&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>Respect is a matter of leadership&#8211;not position, title or gender.  Gaining respect of others always begins with having respect for yourself.  Leaders whom the people respect don&#8217;t grab all the credit of a victory for themselves.  Leaders cannot help people experience success unless they have themselves been successful.  Weak leaders believe that their position or title DESERVES respect (entitlement!).  Strong leaders know they must earn it.  So I must constantly ask myself, &#8220;What am I relying on for my respect?&#8221;</p>
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		<title>Black Friday Secret</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Nov 2009 15:41:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[My mom, and often my wife and sister, have been huge Black Friday proponents.  I&#8217;m not sure that they saved that much money but there was something competitive in her that wanted to get the best deals&#8230;FIRST!  I have to admit that I have gotten a deal or two in my time on Black Friday [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=smalltownpastor.wordpress.com&blog=3563455&post=2905&subd=smalltownpastor&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>My mom, and often my wife and sister, have been huge Black Friday proponents.  I&#8217;m not sure that they saved that much money but there was something competitive in her that wanted to get the best deals&#8230;FIRST!  I have to admit that I have gotten a deal or two in my time on Black Friday that made it worthwhile.  But I&#8217;ve always been the beneficiary, not the aggressor who fights his way through the crowds for the prize. </p>
<p><a href="http://heathersunseri.blogspot.com/2009/11/black-friday-dont-be-caught-in-dark.html">To read more about this I loved Heather&#8217;s post on Black Friday and all of the comments. </a></p>
<p>But with computers I have found that there is so much money to be saved without getting up early or leaving my house.  And you don&#8217;t even have to wait until Friday!  That&#8217;s my secret.  My favorite place with the best deals? <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&amp;location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FBlack-Friday-After-Thanksgiving-Sale%2Fb%3Fie%3DUTF8%26node%3D384082011&amp;tag=smatowpas-20&amp;linkCode=ur2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957">GO HERE NOW FOR GREAT DEALS</a><img style="border:none!important;margin:0!important;" src="https://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=smatowpas-20&amp;l=ur2&amp;o=1" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></p>
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		<title>Prayer Is Not One Sided</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Nov 2009 10:29:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Prayer is communicating with God in both directions.  He talks; we listen.  We talk; He listens.  Listening, however, should always take priority.  As we hear His leading, we must willingly and joyfully obey.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>Prayer is communicating with God in both directions.  He talks; we listen.  We talk; He listens.  Listening, however, should always take priority.  As we hear His leading, we must willingly and joyfully obey.</p>
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		<title>Henrietta and Merna Can&#8217;t Sing</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 24 Nov 2009 15:57:04 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I love Christian T.V.!  Such easy fodder&#8230;

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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>I love Christian T.V.!  Such easy fodder&#8230;</p>
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